#171 Today my lovely guest is Sheila Vijeyarasa. Sheila is a medium, spiritual teacher, author, and courageous warrior woman. During our conversation today, we talk about the concept of mediumship, how anyone can become more clairvoyant, spiritual awakenings and their challenges, and why choosing our calling is not always without its challenges.
If you have been contemplating whether the path you are on right now is for you, then I recommend you tune in and get inspired.
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About Sheila: Sheila Vijeyarasa is a corporate leader as well as a spiritual teacher and mentor, medium and psychic reader. She holds an MBA and has fifteen years’ experience in publishing and media preceded by a foundation of eight years’ experience in chartered accounting and banking. Sheila is the founder of Empowering Intuition. Her natural mediumistic and psychic abilities were passed down through multiple generations in her family, and she cultivated those skills at the prestigious Arthur Findlay College.
She immersed herself in learning reiki and multiple mindfulness techniques at Esalen with Dr Shauna Shapiro, and studied bhakti yoga and the Vedic teachings of Kripalu Maharaj. She was taught by world-renowned medium James Van Praagh at The Omega Institute and studied executive coaching and NLP with Tad James Co. She appeared on Australian television on Psychic TV. Sheila’s corporate smarts are combined with her deep intuition to provide grounded practical advice in her sessions.
Key points with time stamp:
- Brave: Courageously Live Your Truth (00:00)
- Transforming lives: Sheila’s work in her own words (01:09)
- Being a medium (02:00)
- What is mediumship? (03:24)
- Sheila’s spiritual awakening (06:00)
- Joy vs. obligation: choosing one’s career path (08:34)
- The process of aligning with one’s purpose (11:06)
- Letting go of control as a perfectionist (16:59)
- The beginning of mediumship and the effects of constant self-sacrifice (18:26)
- Resisting spiritual awakenings…? (20:36)
- At what point do we own our journey? (24:56)
- Can anybody become a medium? (27:32)
- Practical tips on becoming more clairvoyant (28:33)
- The interplay of mediumship in daily life (31:12)
- Writing Brave (32:32)
- Completing accomplishments and beating imposter syndrome (36:44)
- Why Brave? (38:48)
- Having a Miracle Morning (39:56)
- Unknown facts about Sheila (41:35)
- Sheila’s choice of a dinner guest, from any timeframe (42:13)
- Live your truth (43:30)
- Future projects for Sheila (44:21)
Mentioned in this episode:
- Brave: Courageously Live your Truth, 2021. Sheila’s book
- Simon and Schuster, a publishing company
- Richard Branson
- Tony Robbins
- Vedic Philosophy
- Eckhart Tolle
- The Power of Now, 1997. A book by Eckhart Tolle
- 180 Nutrition
- Arthur Findlay College
- Michelle Obama
- Becoming, 2018. A book by Michelle Obama
- The Miracle Morning, 2012. A book by Hal Elrod
- Nina Simone
- Maya Angelou
Sheila, welcome to the podcast.
Thank you, Guy. It’s a pleasure to be here.
I’m, I’m genuinely very excited for this conversation today. And just to put a little bit of context into how this came about for people listening as well, because I have your book right here brave. And, and judging by the color is, honestly, it’s not the book I would pick up initially as a man. Okay. But having met you and had the conversation and you gifted the book to me to check it out. And we were just chatting, and I just knew you’re coming on the podcast, as soon as I met you, I don’t know what it was. And everything you do anyway, long story short, my wife clock, the book that was sitting on the coffee table. So she would start picking it up. And she’s like, Oh, this looks great. What’s this, and then she started reading it to Ava every evening. And, and I will be sitting there. So I was hearing the stories of coming out as each chapter went by. And we’re about a third of the way through, but I just wanted to let you know that. So it’s actually a real impact on our household. So I was very excited to have this conversation, because you’ve been on one hell of a journey. And I have no doubt you’re going to spy on many people. So before we get into the book anyway, I always ask everyone, right now, if you were an intimate dinner party, and you sat next to a stranger, and they asked you what you did for a living right now, what would you say?
Right now, I’d say I’m an author, because I’m just become an author. I’m an author. I’m a transformation mentor, and I’m a medium. And how I do that I you know, I think I’m a bit of a magician sometimes, because I do really stand for transforming people’s lives. Because I was stuck in mind for so long. And I was miserable. And I didn’t even realize how miserable I was. Because we’ve become addicted to misery and pain. We don’t realize it I didn’t anyway. And so yeah, that’s what I do. I’m a real advocate passionate about transforming people’s lives into the life they want to into the life they dream for.
Yeah, and it’s definitely a courageous step to take that, too, I guess not owning it and moving forward. I’m always intrigued as well, because I’m sure you get different reactions, depending on the person sitting next to you, when you say something like that, especially the last word you mentioned, which was medium. And I’m like, I’m, I’m open as like, I love this work. I love exploring this. But what kind of reactions do you get? Get from that when you say that now, because I’m sure there was a point in your life where you weren’t saying that. And now you are. So you’ve been on this transition yourself.
It was a part of my life, I was completely hiding this part of myself. And I think there’s a lot of maybe listeners here who have these abilities that are scared to talk about it, to own up to having them to confused by them. So I had all those feelings for many years. And then I had my awakening. And so to answer your question, how do people react, some people are just so intrigued by it, because they believe in the other side, they may have had their own experiences with paranormal experiences, or just experiences with spirits or ancestors, you know, or signs and synchronicity from the universe. So they’re like, oh, there’s someone I can talk to about this, he’s not going to think I’m crazy. There’s some people that are interested, but probably sit on the fence and just ask questions more pragmatically. And there are non believers and the non believers, you know, I’m okay with non believers, my dad’s a non believer, that’s okay. To be a non believer, I always think just ask questions and get curious, and then at least you can have a good standpoint on something.
Yeah. Beautiful. And how would you define mediumship just to get clarity on why we’re on this,
you know, I, I am a medium who speaks to souls on the other side who have passed over, you had a human incarnation, you know, for my clients. So they, these, these souls I speak to that have that are passed over, have had a human form. That’s one form of mediumship. And when I tune into that dimensional realm, it’s a heavier realm as a medium, and we call us evidential mediums, because when you speak to the cell, on the other side, you need evidence to prove Are you grandmother, grandfather, and name What did you love? Describe your relationship with the client sitting in front of me. So it’s called evidential mediumship. But there’s another type of type of mediumship that we don’t really talk about and this is a fixed a lot more people specially with the awakening that the planet has gone through since 2012. And with a lot of people have had spiritual awakening since COVID. And that’s being a medium where you connect with high vibrational entities and beings and you might be a channel for wisdom. And that kind of mediumship is where people start to speak inspirationally. They start to do podcasts. They start to write books, they start to do, you know, post on Facebook, and you might have experience of inspiration. So you’re in spirit, you’re connected to a spirit of a high vibration. So that kind of mediumship Is this a high vibrational type of mediumship from a very high dimension. And there’s a lot of angels, high vibrational light beings, Interstellar beings, I’m getting a little weird now. So hopefully your
conversation, we can all nod our head,
we can, you know, I used to be a finance director will come to this I’ve had a very credible part of my life. So it hasn’t always been woowoo. And so this type of mediumship a lot more people have access to, and a word you could use for it as being an Oracle or being an Oracle for higher wisdom and guidance, and that we shouldn’t shun from that that is true service and a lot of mentors and coaches. healers are Oracle’s from from high vibrational beings.
That’s, yeah, that’s something else now. I’m curious as well. And I think back in my own life as well, but did you have insight your whole life with this and just suppressed it? Or is this something true? Cuz you mentioned awakening as well, that just started to come online, from an awakening? What happened?
So I haven’t I have one vivid memory when I was very young, and I was crying, I was inconsolable. And the only reason why I remember this memory is because my dad didn’t really hug us or hold our hands. And I have a memory where my mother and father were holding my each hold, held her hand, my left hand and my right hand, and they’re walking me around the house and I couldn’t stop crying. And it went for a long period of time. And for end. My memory of that is I saw something in my room, I saw a spirit and I just I was in overwhelm. And I was so scared. And it’s a really common experience with a lot of the teachers, a lot of the students I teach that they shut down after an experience like that. And so I shut down from my strong clairvoyance and insane spirits from from the age of about three or four. However, I believe intuition always gets through the cracks. And so I had, it’s in my book, a couple of experiences I share where I’ve had such strong knowings I’ve had premonitions and dreams, and it’s got stronger as I’ve gotten older, and I’ve trusted it more. So the psychic, if you want to call it or intuitive experiences have had have always been there. It comes through perhaps in times of crisis. It comes through in times of emotion, elevated emotional states, deep grief, sadness or euphoria. Because I think in those states, we’re very present. And when we’re when we’re very present the way that we can speak to our higher self, we can speak to our spirit guides. So I think intuition is always there just if we vacillate in and out of that state.
Yeah. And you mentioned finance, etc. Finance Director.
Yeah, yeah. Right. So the rational and logical part of my mind exists too, right?
Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. So because if I’m not mistaken, Sri Lankans, your background, is that correct? And were you born in Sri Lanka or, or was born
in Sydney, my parents were born in Malaysia, and they had an arranged marriage. And my dad migrated to Australia in 1975. So my dad’s a doctor, and my mother comes from a very intuitive line of women. So I feel like I’m a true product of two very different people.
Wow, amazing. And do you think how much affected you’d so when you when you became a finance director, I only saw this because obviously I work with a lot of people and, and we get a lot of people getting to that point in their life, especially late 30s, early 40s, like, Oh, my God, what have I done with my life? I’ve been going this career path, and it’s not serving me, you know, and everything starts to break down. When you were a finance director was that did that, at one point feel like you’re calling and you and you weren’t actually loving it? Or was there always a push to get you in that direction or expectation from other people?
Truthfully, it didn’t feel like a calling, but it served me. And I know, it wasn’t a calling because I wasn’t passionate about it. And a lot of women and this is why I wrote my book, because we find ways to be passionate about things that we aren’t as as a coping mechanism. So I convinced myself that money was important. The job title was important. I found an industry that I was aligned with but fundamentally following this path, and I did an MBA and I got to the C suite as a finance director, and fundamental as my father’s path or path conditioned by my culture, which was you don’t you don’t enjoy your career, you just become very successful. And you know, I chose a career where I got a scholarship to university. I didn’t and because I got a scholarship, I just chose that degree. I didn’t think Gosh, what what would make my heart sing But what I love to do, and the only reason even if I asked myself those questions all those years ago guy, I don’t even think I could have answered it. And I think it’s a real failing of that education system so many years ago was that I didn’t know myself. And so I love what I’m seeing now with the youthful generation coming through, raised by conscious parents that are helping the children find their way home to themselves, because I didn’t have that. So for me, I had a career path. That was not my own path, I walked my culture’s path, my family’s path, society, my friends around me, were all very successful. You know, when you’re successful, you surround yourself by other successful people. And before you know it, this group think you’re thinking the same, right? And there’s an abandoning of yourself in that process just to belong, we all want to belong. And so I belonged with these different tribes for many years. And then I got lost. And I talk about it in my book in this in the chapter called the dark night of courage, because I personally believe when we lose ourselves enough, the universe does a big cost correction, and it manifests as a crisis.
Yeah, I agree. I certainly agree with that. So who you were a finance director for? Because you mentioned that you were you were kind of in alignment, but not in the
Yes. So I found an industry I loved I was in publishing for many years. So I was a finance director at Simon and Schuster. And then I was a deputy finance director for a different publishing house. So the universe helped me along to bring me slowly in alignment with where I was going, which would be eventually to write a book. You know, I was a bit of a shadow artists, I was surrounded by all these authors wishing I could be one myself secretly. So it’s, it’s I write about in the second chapter of my book that quite often, all the crumbs in our life add up to make sense later. And so we kind of, you might ask me, was I doing my calling, perhaps in some way I was being guided to finally end up doing work that was very much aligned with my purpose. And perhaps for many years, I was just training.
Yeah. Wow. There’s a lot to be said about that, isn’t it? I always remember reading Richard Branson’s original autobiography when I was going through my own transition, because he was such a such a great guy. But he always talked about as well, I think Tony Robbins about proximity and being in the areas they live in not necessarily doing the very thing, but that proximity itself is going to have major impact over time. You know, it sounds like is happening. So for you, then, if you’re in that proximity, you’re kind of in alignment, when did the cracks start appearing go in, and the soul, your soul self wanting to come through more, or you knew that the changes were coming?
Yeah, so the changes have been far before the actual I think formal awakening. And, you know, I was a perfectionist. So whatever the thing you are, that doesn’t serve you that will be the source of the crisis. So I was a perfectionist. And I have in my book with this chapter, where I was working in a publishing house, and 50 Shades of Grey was being published. This was a book that had great visibility. It was a book that globally was in the media every day. for weeks on end, we sold 120 million copies of best selling books of all time. And I was working at Random House publishing at that time, and I was responsible for stock management. So we, you know, this is something we don’t want to get wrong, you know. And for some reason, in Australia, we were really selling a lot of copies of this book, per capita. And so we couldn’t afford to run out of stock, it will take two months to get stuck to the port in Sydney, from overseas. And so we’re working working on very difficult lead times. And I remember sitting with the sales director, trying to forecast something that was an outlier. It was a freak of nature, right. And we forecasted to bring in a significant quantity on a ship. A week later, we’d get the sales data through to indicate to us what the trends were. And a week later, I open this file, and the sales are stopped, did they just slow down to kind of a halt? Because we saturated the whole Australian market. Right. So I’m a perfectionist, and I was like, what, how do I get this wrong? This is humiliating. I don’t make mistakes. What will everyone think? And it began the journey of shame, humiliation, anxiety, depression. And that was, for me a big crisis point where I’d invested everything into my career. At that point, I just finished my MBA, and my job title and my status meant so much to me, and I’d abandoned myself, my personal life, romantic relationships, the things that I loved. And so my career’s data to dismantle the one thing I held up Very important. And this was the beginning of my spiritual awakening.
Wow. And were you getting a hard time from the company as well? Or were you just giving yourself a hard time?
It’s It’s It’s reasonable that a company in that situation would ask difficult questions, right? But when you don’t have I didn’t have a balanced mindset about myself. So I saw everything as a crisis, or so every question in email as I’m terrible person, you know, I’m bad. I had that kind of very linear line of thinking. So definitely there was, you know, questions we an era had been made. But what’s wrong with errors? What’s wrong with mistakes, even if even if they’re big, right? But when you’re a perfectionist, it takes you out of life. So I then had to go on a journey to get myself out of that of self inquiry, you know, and then the universe credits and big changes in my life, job changes, job losses, relationships ending, you know, and then very shortly after that, I actually started, I guess, I’d already been on my spiritual path for a couple of years studying Buddhism. But I have found a guru in India and had a guru for two years. After that moment. Wow, I started to take Yeah, I started to learn Vedic philosophy, the mind, you know, the goodness of the mind, I started to learn what the art of detachment is, you know, the karmic impact of our thoughts it was, it was an initiation into spirituality. And I was forced into it. I was searching when searching for answers.
Yeah, totally. So how long did that period start to happen? So you said the straw broke the camel’s back with that, over and I remember, I remember Linda, reading that part out loud in the book. I was like, wow, that’s, that’s incredible. You know, even the whole experience of 50 Shades of Grey, because like you said, it’s such a anomaly. Like,
so visible. Yeah, the world was celebrating the success of this book. And yet I behind closed doors was having a crisis about it. It was a real polarity of experiences.
Yeah. So once that started to happen, and you start to do fall into these places, depression, anxiety, and and these, this this shame, I mean, it’s such a, such a strong and awful, not I shouldn’t say awful, but it’s an emotion is difficult to deal with when it’s when it’s happening, you know, was your perfectionist brain at that time, which is I’m curious about like, oh, I’ve got to figure out a way to make this happen, or were you willing to then slowly just start to, to let go of the control of what you probably sounded like you’d been governing in your life?
That No, I mean, I needed assistance, because the same mind that got me into this problem wasn’t able to get me out, I needed a whole set of new tools like mindset, mastery tools, emotional resilience, tools, spiritual tools, to allow me to connect back to myself, source and into my intuition. So it wasn’t a quick process. It was a process where I started to work with a therapist, counselors, mentors, I started to literally go in and start read spiritual books. Eckhart Tolle a, you know, the power of now, like they all became my teachers in a very short space of time, I did leave that job, you know, and it was the right thing to do to be exited from that job. And that gain another painful experience. Looking back now, it was all perfect. Because all of these experiences that I was in, were no longer in alignment with where I was going.
It’s incredible a win, you know, to have that wisdom, looking back. And what I’m curious about as well is when did the medium shipaspects start to come into play with all this.
So it was it was several years later. And by that stage, I was in a romantic relationship. And I think this resonates with a lot of a lot of women and men to where I’d self sacrifice myself so much in this relationship. This was a relationship with my partner that time had a guru in India. So he was following the guru and I was running after him. So it was one of those kind of comical, he was running after the guru and I was running up to him. It’s like he’s running off to me. So and the stories in the book to that relationship ended because it was not serving me. And that, because of that relationship, ending, I’d become part of all his spiritual groups, you know, I’d sort of sacrifice all of my thoughts and got so into his world where I had abandoned myself. So after that breakup, I started to do a whole lot of workshops. And I started to seek and search again, I did a workshop on intuition. And in that workshop, I had my probably my first formal spiritual experience where the teacher took us into a meditation. And I’m naturally very psychic. I come from a very psychic family. So in the first workshop, I gave a reading for the lady and she’s like, Oh, my God, all of this is true. And then I said, I think I’ve got someone here. I think it’s an uncle. He was in the Navy. She’s like, that’s my uncle. So I described him very accurately. And then I didn’t realize there was a difference between being a psychic and a medium. So I came into all this knowledge very quickly. It felt like a spontaneous awakening. However, it’s just I had a teacher showing me how to use these gifts, these abilities. I had them all the time. And I recall in that moment, when I found she said to me, you’re a medium and you have these abilities. Guy, there was this feeling of I’ve arrived, like, this is the thing I was looking for my whole life. And I thought I arrived at the end, it was that was actually the beginning of I arrived at the beginning of a new path. But it was a very, it becomes a big path that I had to step into.
Amazing. And when you realize you’d arrived, and and I can speak on my own is slightly experienced here, because I’m always curious then, with everyone’s journey, because there was a moment when I was still in my old world, which was my last company 180 nutrition. And I was going to bed every single night because I was doing this work more and more and more having more and more awakenings. And there was this massive pull to be doing what I’m doing now. Now, with the hindsight of five years looking back when I was in that soup, I can see it but at the time, I couldn’t see I’m like how the hell am I going to get this work out that or this? And I was, there was this huge resistance, but it just kept getting stronger and stronger and stronger. Is that what was happening for you? And did you resist when you went should have arrived? Was it a moment of like, Oh, fuck, I’m going to put myself out there like this now or did you just run with it?
No, I hid I hid from the world for another three or four. did another strong dog and that’s when the dark not occurred which is in the book happened because we have a
dark night of courage.
We haven’t even gone to the dark has definitely been crisis but the dark night is a proper You know, there’s this shades of The Dark Knight is 50 shades of The Dark Knight if we can describe it that way. I immersed myself in every workshop that I could get my hands on to study psychic development, intuitive development. And I went to the Arthur Findlay College three times in 18 months. And the Arthur field College is a college in the UK dedicated to the pursuit of the studies of mediumship. And when it was founded by john Arthur Finley, and for its week long courses and you go there and from 8am to 8pm you are channeling dead people. It’s a structured course. I remember arriving in London, it was cold at night, it was cold. And I ran out with my suitcases like a couple on the cold stones. And I burst open the door that I said is this they call age I’m here. And these two prim proper English lady says yes, you’re here. Can you close the door? Because I couldn’t believe that I finally made it to this magical mystical place it a lot of us call it the Hogwarts that is like Hogwarts college. And we sit in rooms and all the big castle. And we literally do exercises with the tutors. And it’s different levels you get put in a class, ranked by your ability. And I went there three times. Because you know, it’s such an immersive learning experience. Yeah, it’s like boot camp. I just finished an MBA I was like, I need to find where the MBA is of the mediumship world are and this is the college for it. So I studied, studied, studied, and after the first time I came back from the college, I got back to my job at that time. And I said a mantra every day and I was manifesting. And when I got back to Sydney, I sit at my computer, I turn on my computer. And I’d say to myself, I hate this job. I wish I didn’t have it. I hate this job. I wish I didn’t have it. And so, five weeks later, I was exited from that job. That’s not the whole doc not a card story. But I’m many I’m
where you devastated when they exited you from that job.
You know, by that stage. I’d had a couple of spiritual mentors where I was, Oh, absolutely. My ego was crushed. Okay, I was back into this like terror, but not like the other times this time I was conscious. And I knew I was being saved. And I knew it was a sign from the universe. And so with my spiritual teacher, she goes, you’re ready to work now it’s time to start working as a medium. So the universe took the job away. I had no desire to return at that point in time to my corporate job. And I got I got busy. I said of website up. I mean, this is way before social media two years ago, I set a website up and Facebook was around but I just started to do little posts that isn’t Instagram wasn’t around back then. And it was I literally decided to stay. And that was the first time I came out of the spiritual closet. And I remember doing a post on Facebook and I went to bed and I thought I’m gonna wake up and I couldn’t sleep that night. So I thought I’d get trolled. I thought because no one knew about this part of me. I just finished my MBA. I was a finance person. I was a hedge I hidden there’s 100% and the universe was like no more hiding no more. Wow. So it sounds work. That was the beginning.
That was the beginning and then at what point on that journey with where you’re like 100%, in, you know, like you feel comfortable in, in every meeting, you know, you’re just always this stuff like you would never know this journey in a million years that you’ve been on. Because it’s just you when I met you, like, it’s just, you know, beaming out of every pore for Have you like, you know, so what point do you think on that journey, then? Could you really own it?
You know, I don’t know if there’s any points. There’s, there’s a lot of books that are called becoming like, even Michelle Obama, I’m pretty sure books called becoming, I became this. And so every step of the way, I just became more of this version of me, and less of the old version of me. So you know, after I got lost my job, and set up this business to work as a medium, my first mentor reached out to me and she said, I think you’re ready to go on psychic TV, to do live readings on Australian television. And I thought, Oh, man, there’s no way I’m doing this. Because no, you’re ready. And you’d be perfect. So I said, Okay, you know, put me forward thinking they’d say, No, or it’s six months away. And then she messaged me back and said, You run in two weeks on Saturday night. So I was like, What are you talking about? So you know, I went away a panic. Yes. I also said yes, with her strong mentor encouragement, then I found, I got prepared, right. So fi can hold us back. But fi can also be a sign of where we’re not ready. And I was like, I’m not ready to appear on television. So I went to, I hired I found a lady and he could train me how to speak to camera. I was scared, I wouldn’t be able to channel on live television that the red light might throw me. So I said to her, she told me the price to train with her. And I said, I can’t afford that. But I said, How about this, I’ll pay you half the price. And I’ll give you free readings to you and everyone in your office. You just got to tell me if I’m accurate or not. And she said to me, that’s an unusual offer. But I’m going to take it right. You got to get innovative. And two weeks later, I was there in the studio. I was I was I nervous? Yes. Did I feel more prepared? Because I’d put myself forward and being proactive. Yes. And then at that point, there was more of me becoming a public medium on television. That was the next step. And then after that, so many other doors have opened, where I’ve just become more and more, you know, me, I’ve become more and more into my power as a medium as a psychic as a transformation coach, even being an author that was becoming I’d never written a blog post and I quit my job to write a book.
Yeah, so do do we hold all have this ability to become psychic medium?
I think we absolutely all have the ability to we all have psychic ability. And psychics have a strong word and quite charged because of the history of psychics, right, and the religious incompatibilities, perhaps around that word. So I like to use the word intuition, which is literally just another form of it. Yeah. And we absolutely all have intuition. And we absolutely all have an ability to channel from higher source. And we can all do that, once we just clear out our limiting beliefs. And we just, and when I work with clients, it’s we clear the beliefs, and then we literally change our life. So it starts, we start from, you know, heading and facing a new direction, I won’t say the right direction is a new direction. And the direction is in alignment with our intuition.
Yeah, no, it’s massive, isn’t it? And I’m from, from what I can feel and see then as well. And I’m just thinking of the listener at this moment, because I think at the boot camp, that you went back three times in that. So it’s obviously a skill as well, once you once you clear the limiting beliefs then that there needs to be a practice around it to allow our skills to develop. So we tune in.
Yeah, absolutely. So I teach this. So there’s different types of Claire’s. Claire’s, a French word for clear, and clairvoyant is clear seeing. So clear seeingthrough the third eye, and is hearing, feeling and just the knowing, and then you have taste and smell as well, right? psychic intuitive skills. So I dissect down these abilities, and take people through practices where they can supercharge how they use it. So I run a course on that. However, if you’re at home and you’re like, you just want to get a little bit more psychic. Having a daily meditation practice easy Central, sitting in the same place and meditating every day also creates more of a portal and supercharges that space. So when you come into that it’s a still space. And so it amplifies the practice it magnifies. It’s like when you go into a church, or a temple or monastery, Phil still doesn’t it? Just feel still you don’t know why cuz everyone sits there every day in stillness. And that’s why when you go to the city, you’re like, Oh, I just feel so thrown off. I just feel tired because in a city everyone’s busy and thinking. So you’ve got to create a space consciously. Journal writing every morning after you meditate is connecting with something higher than yourself. And you just do that practice every day. With sounds around you. Sounds clear the air, high vibrational music. And these days years ago, you couldn’t, you could not Google high vibrational music, it just wouldn’t. Nothing would have come up when I first started meditating. But now on Spotify, Google high vibrational music, Google the frequencies in hertz, that will activate the gamma brainwaves take you out of you know that the the frenetic buisiness, this only tools now, I my cancel is don’t be concerned about being psychic, be more interested in being still and clearing and cleaning yourself. And then the last thing I say is connect to nature as frequently as you can dip yourself in the ocean to cleanse your auric field, sit and have lunch in nature, if you can, you know have your breaks in nature. And those tools inevitably will lead you to your intuition.
Yeah, massive. No, that’s great. Thank you for sharing all that. And I just something occurred to me. But you know, when you’re out and about and you know, you develop these skills, are you like just tuning into people all the time, unconsciously and sort of getting getting a bead straightaway? Or is this something you you know, you you sell yourself in? How much of it is into playing in your life now on a on a on a daily basis?
Yeah, I teach this as well, because boundaries is really important. You can get psychically hit by so many things around you. So I don’t open myself to do readings, or to psychically read somebody, because I think there’s a boundary that everyone has, I don’t think everyone wants to be read that everyone wants psychic guidance or advice. I don’t personally do that. However, as someone who’s quite sensitive and open, I find I get feelings about people. And I think most people get feelings. And you know, got you a feeling about me when we met at that icebar. All those weeks ago, you’re like v my podcast. So your intuition was saying something to you, right? So you got to hit you know, and we all get hits. When someone’s in grief, or someone’s got a big personality or big or energy, I’m more conscious to not feel into the energy and respect, respectfully come to understand who they are, through, you know, conversation being interested in them.
Yeah, beautiful, beautiful. Now, regarding your book brave, which I’ve got here, courageously of your truth, what at what moment? Did you decide to go? You know what I’ve got to get a book out? And why the framework of this book? I know because it’s it’s a little bit different as well, because you’ve collectively drawn different women’s experiences in So what was the thinking behind it? And the inspiration?
Yeah, you know, and I think that’s where our life makes sense. Only years later. So I worked in publishing for many years, I read so many books, so many improvement, self improvement books, and so many of the teachers in these books helped me in life. And I thought, How do I make this book, that kind of book for the reader, where there’s so much wisdom, and that’s why there’s a lot of quotes. And each, each chapter begins with a quote, because I wanted a one of the vibration of that teacher in the book too, because books have a vibration. So I wanted to take the reader on a path. So and I wanted to take the reader through difficulty into triumph. I’ve interviewed 19 other women for the book, because I knew my own story wasn’t everyone’s experience, not everyone can get what it’s like to be a medium of psychic, but they get what it’s like to not feel like you don’t belong. Right. So there was relatability to my story, a lot of corporate women are having awakening. So I thought that that’s relatable. But there’s 19 other women that a mums, you know, that that are that are much older than me that are much younger than me that have had different experiences. So it’s packed with a lot of wisdom, because I wanted, I wanted people to walk away and go, yes, I know what to do. Now I know how to step forward. And, you know, I, I converted my whole, any writers out there, you’ll be converting one room to writing them. I had walls covered in post it notes, my floor was strewn with paper. And I think this is really common. I’ve spoken to so many authors that book launches over the years. And it’s just so messy before it becomes clear. And that’s why I respect when people make it to the end of a book, because we can all start writing. And then we can all write a chapter or two. But at that point, that’s when that’s when the hate hits. And you’re like what except what exactly am I trying to do? How am I doing it? And why? And I had to really answer these questions. And so I got an editor I started to work early on with an editor because I had no skills so like all the coaches say Find someone that knows more about this process than us. So I quickly was like, I need a really good editor. And I was very lucky the universe delivers, you know, the right person. My editor had done a PhD in, I think it was mythical studies or something. So she was also interested in spirituality and was a book editor. So we talked for hours on end about, you know, what am I trying to say? How do I say it? How do I make my message relatable? So I learned so much from the process. And, you know, I wrote the book for myself 10 years ago, which this is the book I needed when I was having my spiritual awakening. Okay, my crisis, you know, we write we write the book for ourself. It’s the medicine for us self before it is for the world.
Yeah. And how long did it if you think back now from first concept to when is it being released? Is it out now?
It’s out now it’s in all good bookstores. Now. It’s being published published in May, in the UK, the end of May and in the US in September?
Congrats. That’s huge. It’s amazing. Like, how long does that concept take them from start to finish?
You know, I started writing this at the end of 2017. So I was writing, I was one of those part time writers that wrote after I got home from work and on the weekends and where I could get a bit of time here and there. And then like, you say, guy, the calling got stronger and stronger. And then I was like, I need to really dedicate time. So I stopped doing as much client work. And then fine, I quit my corporate job the year before COVID. And I had COVID, before everyone had COVID. I bunkered down in my apartment alone and just wrote this book for like, six, seven months. I still had client work, but I spent long days the students looking at the window. Just being a writer.
Yeah, amazing. Amazing. All I can say is, congratulations. I’ve had many as you can imagine, many authors I’ve spoken to over the years that come on the show. And I’m always just, yeah, just it just blows me away that put the book together because there’s something I know responding to you about my own journey about one stage of my life putting it together, but when Before starting, it always feels so cute, just like wow, you know, and and getting clear and taking the steps to do that. I guess anything in life? It’s, it’s a great lesson and being follow through one question I got for you with the book. And because Was it a moment of where you you ever thought you were never going to complete it? because quite often we’re in projects, or in in that transform, formative change. Sometimes there’s a willingness, there’s a part of us that starts to kick in and go, you know, I just got to give this up or whatever that might be.
Oh, absolutely. There was a part. It didn’t feel it wasn’t I wasn’t going to finish it. I yeah, there was a moment of I don’t know if I can, I’ve got what it takes to complete this project. And the well, one, and then when I did all the chops, and finally gave it to the publisher, the probably the biggest thought for me was is this is this the best I can do? Is this actually what I want out there. So for me, the first thing they say, get your first draft done fast, and I give this counsel to anyone I mentor, you just get your first draft done. Because then then then you’ve written a book. And for me, the really hard work began, when I went to do the I did about five or six edits. And then I to reread a written 72,000 words, you’ve got to read 72,000 words, five or six times with a critical eye. Yeah, you know, really understand and you write things you go, why did I write that? That doesn’t even make sense? Or what are right that I don’t quite agree. Or why did I write that there’s actually another opinion of left out? So it’s like I said, remember working with clay, you’ve got to then massage it after. And that’s that’s the work.
I last question on the book title. Brave? Love it, write one word boom. And you know exactly what it’s about. Was that something you wrote around? Or did the title come towards the end?
It’s interesting with book titles I’ve worked in publishing for so long if you don’t get that we spent a lot of time in the publishing industry nailing the title and nailing the cover because that’s got to communicate so much to the reader that they pick it up. It originally it was called be courageously you it was called be courageously, and I was very wedded to the title and the publisher. And I thought about it. And the publisher said, we’re going to decide the title and you have to be okay with that. Leave it with me. So I didn’t hear back from them for two weeks. I checked my emails every day going, then the thought of the title. And she came back with brave heart and I still I just thought I don’t it didn’t resonate. And then we can’t we can’t and then I thought no, it’s actually just brave. It’s just one you know. So it was actually again, it was it was a collective group there. That came up with that word and and looking back now maybe it’s like, Can you name a child you got that that names? Perfect, but the name is perfect for the book,
you know? Yeah, it was feel like that. Totally. Yeah. I can think of They’ve actually looked back now. Yeah, it works actually is landed right before it was like a zillion names I came through on the whole thing. Yeah. Look, I asked everyone questions on the show, and I’m always curious to get a different angle on you. And the first question is, with all this work that you do now, do you have any rituals or morning routines? Or things in place? that keep you? Honest, sharp?
Yeah, yeah, great question. There’s a great book called The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. And I recommend everyone read that. Because the if you if you have a Miracle Morning, then you create a miracle life and it for me, it’s still a work in progress, I think for everyone, because we’re always in transition, right? So right now, I try and connect with the ocean daily, you know, and if I’m, when disciplines really strong, I’ll wake up and I will go for an ocean or go for a run on the beach and have a dip in the ocean. I meditate in the mornings, I start my morning with lemon water or a green juice. And I love just to sit in silence, and write. And there’s many different ways you can write. I’ve got a friend that causes mourning pages, and he just writes three pages. And he says, it doesn’t matter what I write, I just make sure I get three pages out every morning. So sometimes I’ll just do that. Sometimes I’ll do a gratitude, like 10 gratitudes. So I’m quite a dynamic person. So I don’t actually have I don’t start my day, the same way every day. But I have probably a bit of a rhythm through seven days.
Yeah, fair enough. I know that feeling. What’s one thing most people wouldn’t know about you?
cause I’m such an open book. That’s a great session. I don’t I tell you this one. Yeah. I can be very introverted and hermit. I realize I’m actually anybody in Human Design. I’m in a line too. So I hide from the world for days and hours, and even a week if I could, and I’d like no one to talk to me. And that wouldn’t be obvious to people. That’s not Yeah.
Yeah. Fair enough. If you were going to have dinner with anyone, from any timeframe anywhere in the world. Would you think it would be why? Anyone burning, you’d like to admit me?
It’s like, I’d love Nina Simone. You know, I like to have conversations with really, with people that have been through a lot, you know, as a black woman, she’s just, you know, a singer. She’s so accomplished, you know, she was actually a highly accomplished musician. She wasn’t she was a trained like classical piano. And, you know, she lives in a very white world. And a black woman that wasn’t accepted, and yet rose to different types of fame. And she lost a fortune and made it. She hated men and loved men. And I just think women like that, you know, Maya Angelou is another one just just to sit and to hear them tell stories. I don’t even know if I’d say much. And just be like, tell me stories after stories of your life. And maybe the stories that you never wrote about all the ones you wish You did? Totally.
Yeah, no, brilliant. And last question. With everything we’ve covered today. What would you like to leave the listeners to ponder on?
just you know, the message from my book, which is courageously live your truth, you know, and I get emotional as I even talk about this. Because, you know, we can scale up big mountains and do really big adventures physically. Yet it takes real courage to speak your truth, and to live your truth. And it’s a very simple concept. so simple that we sometimes don’t even stop to think about it. Yet, it’s probably one of the most difficult things you can do is to constantly live your life in integrity to yourself. So my message to you is, how can you do that today for yourself? What’s one thought and action you can take today to just bring you a little bit more in alignment with with you what you love, who you want to be? What you are creating for your future? So that yeah, that’s what I’d love to leave the listener with.
Yeah, beautiful. So true. And what’s next for you? What’s coming up? I mean, you’ve released the book, is it now? What happens from here? Look, it’s
been a crazy wild ride for anyone that’s ever I welcome to big W and I had them all stacked up and I’m about to go into demyx and check it you know, when you see I walked in during the week and my my book was above Eckhart Tolle Ed’s book, and I was like, no way. I’m on the bookshelf. And so what’s next? I think riding these crazy wild ride, I’m writing an affirmation deck. For my publishers asked me for interested we want another proposal which is fantastic. So I’m going to Do an affirmation Oracle deck. And I’m pondering and I’m gonna have to spend some time in nature cuz I’d like to write a second book. And I’m just not sure what that is. And truthfully, guy, I’m a little hesitant because I know I’m gonna have to live the book to write it. It’s like, what do I want to leave? Like, you know, might be about love. It might be about, you know, height, you know, I wouldn’t call it high performance, but it’s this like, what is really what what is living, the most expanded version of yourself look like? What are the tools? And so I think I’m going to write a book that I want to learn. I’m gonna learn something first and then write about it. I think that’s what’s on the cards.
There’s no stopping. Yeah. Amazing. That’s amazing. And like, congratulations, and Sheila and wishing nothing but the best for this book. It’s, it’s been awesome what we’ve read so far, and I, and I’m a man saying that and I know with the pink cover, you’re kind of targeting women. But still, I was I was, I was drawn straight in. So yeah, I have no doubt it’s going to be a huge success. And, yeah, thank you for all that you do and live in your truth and being on the show. Thank you for having me on. You’re very welcome. Thank you.